I wrote a little quick&dirty Bash-script to monitor the issue and restart apache before stuff starts to crash.
#!/bin/bash
MEM=$(free | grep Mem | awk '{printf "%.0f", ($3/$2)*100}')
if [ $MEM -gt 85 ]
then
RESULT=$(apachectl configtest 2>&1)
if [ "$RESULT" == "Syntax OK" ]
then
apachectl graceful
exit 0;
else
echo "Probleme mit der httpd Konfiguration vom RT:"
echo $RESULT
exit 2;
fi
fi
This runs now every 5 minutes via cron.